No one else can complete you. — Your relationship isn’t going well. They don’t get you, no matter what you do to be seen and heard. Question: do you get you? Newsflash, right from the jump: we all have blind spots in our self-image, and those can create a mass of confusion about why others don’t see…

You must address the common denominator — So you’ve failed at marriage. Maybe more than once. I get it — it’s hard enough the first time, and statistics routinely suggest that it never gets easier the more times you try it. Marriages end. Kind of a lot, actually. There is some evidence that the divorce rate has…

Don’t just collect followers to stay afloat — Look. I get it. The algorithm now demands a minimum number of followers. For those flying under that hard deck, panic sets in and leads to frantically following anyone and everyone in the hope that they will reciprocate. …

If it is, then why is it so hard to pick up? — I was sitting in church Sunday, and everything felt very familiar. The worship time was powerful and soul-moving, the coffee and donuts were typically…typical. The sermon time started with prayer, and the foundational Bible passage was one I’d heard hundreds or thousands of times: Matthew 11:28–30. Then Jesus said, “Come…

Then I forgot to do the work — Here is the bottom line upfront: two of the biggest mistakes you can make as a writer are chasing a result instead of loving the process and failing to develop a deep relationship with your subject. This is a tale of how I got gobsmacked for achieving both of those…

A poem about seeking the Spirit of God — Lord, can I be honest? I have something to say Someone asked me a question I couldn’t answer today He asked me how to know You He was looking for The Way I opened my mouth to answer But I had nothing real to say Lord, I don’t know how…

Make this time bearable — When the social distancing and stay-at-home mandates first crashed down on my roof, I immediately feared the worst. Even as I dealt with the shocking reality that life was changing drastically for most of us, my mind immediately raced to the far end of worst-case scenarios for my own household. …

You gotta hunt the good stuff… — We live in a far different society today than we did in the mid- to late-90s. I know, not exactly a hot take, right? But think about how different things are today. Alannis Morissette screamed at us about failed relationships and crooned about her obvious misunderstanding of the word “irony.”…

What Maxwell has taught us about life in our brief time together — I never contemplated having another dog. My previous foray into that did not go well; I adopted two rescue dogs during my time in Puerto Rico that were completely unteachable. When it was time to move back to the continental U.S., …