Get out of that wash-rinse-repeat cycle — Breaking up sucks. I’ve honestly never been through one that felt good — even the ones I was eager to initiate. You spend time, money, and both mental and emotional energy on someone, only to eventually get to a place where you know it just isn’t going to work. Which…

They’ll set you on a better path almost instantly — You’ve hit your mid-…20s, 30s, 40s…it doesn’t really matter. You feel stuck and completely out of control of your own life. You need to move. Now. But how? I mean, stuck is stuck, right? …

Hey! I like karaoke! — I walked into a resort club one hot, steamy Saturday evening in Fajardo, Puerto Rico. I had my family with me, including my then-one-year-old son. I could tell from up the sidewalk that we were not in for a quiet, relaxing evening. The sounds emanating from that club were both…

Even if you’re not there yet, listen up — Your 40s can be a mind bender. I remember being a teenager who didn’t even know what to care about. Then I was in my 20s and caring about the wrong things. Then my 30s came along and suddenly I was faced with something I’d never felt before: regret. …

Do these two things instead — You fancy yourself a writer, but you can’t find the words. You want to be financially secure but your bills are piling up while your bank account isn’t. You want to be with someone but they don’t show mutual interest. You’re bound up by either internal or external forces that…

I was told this would work, but it didn’t make sense until I did it — So much of writing gets stopped up right between your ears. You can sit around and come up with idea after idea, but when you go to put it down in written form, it just leaves. Or maybe it doesn’t, but your confidence wavers, and you quit. It sounds stupid…

Truly love who you are — You’ve made mistakes. Life could be so different. If only you’d zigged instead of zagged… Life is full of those watershed moments that oftentimes come down to simple choices between two things. Choosing right makes your life awesome, while choosing wrong can really set you back. “Should I marry this…

It’s not selling out, it’s buying in — How to instantly screw up a good thing A friend accused me once of selling out my manhood for deciding to forgo a sports event in favor of spending time with my wife. “Bro. Be a MAN!” he implored. “Don’t let your wife take away who you are!” I made a huge mistake in responding to this shot…

And by that, I mean practice more self-care — He was burned out. Completely down to the nub of usefulness to others. “Frank, I’m just so run down lately,” a work buddy told me recently. “I can’t get my head back into the game of life.” A trained combat medic, he is now relegated to the position of managing…